This is a bit of an update post, mostly because I’d like to tell you about the blog’s new commenting policy, as well as just share a couple of things that have been on my mind.
I hope you’ll spare a quick minute, to check it out! ❤️
First and foremost, I wanted to say ❤️ THANK YOU ❤️ to all of you, for being here, and helping to make this place as warm and inviting as it is, to hang out, and chat about dramas.
It’s testament to the fantastic community that we have here, that I haven’t felt the need to create a commenting policy for such a long time, after starting the blog.
Thank you for being so kind, caring and helpful to one another; the community spirit you guys have helped to create, is truly one of my favorite things about the blog. 🥰
At the same time, I wanted to apologize for a couple of things.
The first one, is for the technical issues that many of you experienced. For a good few months, we were experiencing site loading problems, including too many redirects, and slow loading times.
I’m SO SORRY about that. I’ve finally managed to get it all fixed. I hired a tech specialist to sort out my site loading issues, and the situation has now stabilized, and the site’s now doing well on site speed tests.
If you’ve been wary of coming on the blog for this reason, I hope that this update will make you feel more at ease about hanging out here again!
My perceived lack of presence
The second thing, is for not being as present in the comments as I would have liked.
When I first started the blog, I made it a point to reply to every single comment on the blog, because, as an ex-lurker, I knew what it felt like to leave a comment, and then feel like you were just throwing your words into a void, because no one replies.
I was able to keep to that personal goal for a good number of years.
However, as the blog has grown, I’ve found it a real struggle, to juggle everything that I do for the blog (you can get a flavor for what goes into running the blog, in this post).
Because of this, you’ll have noticed that my presence in the comments has become very sporadic.
Please know that I value every comment; your opinion and insights matter, and I’d love for you to keep sharing them!
I do read as many of the comments as possible, and I will do my best to be more present, going forward, though I should qualify upfront, that it is still impossible for me to respond to all comments. 😅
Thank you for your understanding, and your patience with me! ❤️
NEW COMMENTING POLICY
I’ve finally written a commenting policy and put it in place – 9 whole years after starting the blog, ha.
It feels really late, I know. I’m sorry about that. It just.. never occurred to me, that it would be useful to have a commenting policy in place. 😅
As the blog’s grown, and as the blog community has grown, however, it finally dawned on me that it would actually be helpful and useful, to have a commenting policy.
The whole idea of the commenting policy, is to make the commenting experience here on the blog, as pleasant and happy as possible, for everyone.
I’ve included a handy list of Do’s and Don’ts in the policy, to help guide us along, in our common quest for passionate yet healthy conversations about all things drama.
I’ve put it under the ABOUT section, like so:
To go right there right now, you can click here.
Since we’re on the topic of commenting, I thought I’d also point you to a post that I wrote last year (here!), that breaks down some of the main features of the commenting system that we use here on the blog.
One of the things I’ve noticed, is that the thing that seems to trip folks up the most, is the use of the Spoiler tag.
The best tip I can give you on that, is to:
First: type your spoiler in its own paragraph, making sure to hit Enter an extra time before and after said paragraph, so that your spoiler stands nicely on its own, and then
Second: highlight / select your Spoiler paragraph, before clicking on the Spoiler tag icon, which looks like [+].
That should give you a nice, successful spoiler tag that stands on its own, without interfering with the font size of your subsequent paragraphs.
..And that’s it!
Thank you for taking the time to read this little update post, and thank you for continuing to hang out here, in my little corner of the interwebs. 🥰
Much love to ya!
No worries about not replying to all comments chinggu. We all have real life matters of more importance to attend to. Just keep them reviews coming.
Has it been 9 years already?! I just realized your blog was pretty new when I discovered it in August 2013. One of my greatest online discoveries! Miss those times we shared over your Gong Yoo page. I’m quiet lately but know I’m always here. ❤️❤️❤️
You’ve done amazing all of these years with your ability to reply to so many comments and very thoughtfully at that. But we are all human, and no one can keep up when a site grows to a certain extent. You put out so much wonderful content, and I know everyone appreciates it and all you do ❤
Ahaha, the secret to how I used to reply to just about all comments, was that I posted very infrequently (like, 4x a month?) and sometimes spent 3-4 days in a row, just replying to comments. Insane, I know! 😂 Thanks for the encouragement, Kay, I really appreciate it! ❤️😘
Hahaha 😂😂😂 Yes, less frequent definitely would help. Though you still usually had tons of comments on every post, so still lots of work on your part to respond to most of them. Impressive even then 😉
Aw thanks Kay, you are very kind!! ❤️ I’m still trying to find a balance that works, and that doesn’t have me flying by the seat of my pants quite so much, and that doesn’t have me risking burn-out either. 😅 9 years in, and still so much to learn! 😁
Thanks for this, KFG. The new comment policies make a lot of sense.
I quickly found your website after I watched my 1st show in late 2020, It’s Okay to Not Be Okay. I lurked for a while but then with the My Mister re-watch and now Healer re-watch (two favorite shows, which I only watched in the first place a year ago because you liked both of them so much!) I started commenting.
You really have built a welcoming culture that invites thoughtful, quality discourse. It’s been wonderful to meet everyone in this community. 🥰
I AM sorry you have to wake up to 100+ comments sometimes…especially when they’re musings about which actors look good with eyeliner and which don’t. 😆
I AM sorry you have to wake up to 100+ comments sometimes…especially when they’re musings about which actors look good with eyeliner and which don’t. 😆
Well that puts a whole other perspective on it, doesn’t it? I admit I literally laughed out loud 😂😂😂😂😂 but then felt a bit guilty. 🤭
@beez, Yup, to now think that KFG has had to wade through all of our comments about Ji Sung, Lurch/Frankenstein, whether Myung Hee and Moon Shik share a bed, lipstick on guys, and other rabbit holes we go down….is kind of funny.
@beez @the_sweetroad Ahaha, it’s fine! When I wake up to a slew of comments, it’s not possible for me to read everything carefully, actually.
So I just scan everything, to make sure stuff is running as it should, no one needs any specific help with anything, people are getting along, no one’s violating the commenting policy, that kind of thing.
Which means that I only glimpse bits of the discussion on eyeliner etc. 😁
If I tried to read everything before starting to do other work for the blog, I don’t know that I’d get anything done! 😅
@the_sweetroad I’m so glad you found me, and have delurked to be part of the lively discussions here on the blog! ❤️ I’m really happy to know that you enjoy hanging out with the gang here!
Also, I’m pretty stoked to realize that you only checked out My Mister and Healer because I recommended them! Aw, YAY me! 😁😅
Well, when you love something, you don’t hide it! I can completely relate to that, and I respond well. My husband is “immune to enthusiasm” (one of his personality profiles actually said that, which made me die laughing)….but I am totally the opposite! 🙂 🙂
Really appreciate all the detail and hard work you put into your thorough reviews.
Now I must get off the computer, as I’ve been putting off all my work this morning and been consumed by this site! 🙂 (Because it’s so FUN! 🙂 )
@sweet_road Aw, what an honor, to be your chosen distraction this morning! 😁 But yes, I can understand that work calleth. Have a great day! ❤️
Queen! Champion! Everyone following you is forever agasp with all you do.
Lurker here. Just started Our Blues–no verdict at all after 2, but for one thing: my favorite Korean character actress Lee Jung Eun with that cast is having them all for dinner.
@BE! Always a treat when you de-lurk to share your thoughts. Hope you’re doing well..
Lee Jung-eun is amazing, isn’t she? I just finished Radiant a couple weeks ago, where she shone with the rest of a stellar cast, and feels like I’ve seen her in so many different shows lately, where she always elevates the production. Now in Our Blues, she is just completely inhabiting that character and bringing her delightfully to life (although I am filled with dread/disquiet at the narrative thread the character is entangled in, alas).
BE!! It’s always great to see you, like Trent said! ❤️ Thank you for always being in my corner, and cheering me on. I’m honored (and much encouraged!) by your effusive praise, thank you. 🥰😅
I am planning to start on Our Blues soonish, so I’m looking forward to seeing Lee Jung Eun in her element! 🤩
Our Blues has been very engaging and funny so far. I can’t get her character in Parasite out of my mind when I look at her, though. But in Our Blues she’s a spitfire and a yeller! 🙂
First saw her in Mr. Sunshine, in which she was a wonderful scene stealer. She is great in Tafiant among many others; the woman has range!
I didn’t realize she was in Mr Sunshine! I need to watch that one. I’ve only seen her in Parasite, Hometown Cha Cha Cha (as Shin Min Ah’s patient in the first episode) and in Our Blues. But I like her range for sure.
Radiant was the show I meant, Kim Hye Ja’s tour de force, in a very understated way Ms. Lee is simply spectacular as a long put upon mother. In Mr. Sunshine, she plays the lady in waiting to Go Ae Shin (Kim Tae Ri) and in that spectacular ensemble has some of the series’ most touching scenes. I am going to try to see her in The Day I Died, Unclosed Case, a suspense film with Kim Hye Soo in the starring role, in which she plays a mute woman who is a key witness to the disappearance of a young girl, for which she received raves.
Radiant was the show I meant,
Thanks for clarifying; I’d thought Tafiant was just a cdrama I hadn’t heard of yet. 🙂
I’ve wanted to watch Radiant for a while now, what with its superb reviews and the fact that it stars Kim Hye Ja whom I loved in Dear My Friends. I’ll see when I can get around to it. I’m newer to kdrama world (grew up with Chinese movies instead) so I have lots to catch up on. But that’s a good thing, because if I watch something older, I basically only watch the good ones that have stood the test of time.
Thanks for the good tips!
If you do watch Radiant (and I also recommend that you do!), I would suggest that you go into it “blind,” so to speak, and stick with it if it seems to be meandering a bit in the early-mid stretch. It’s well worth it. (I went into it completely unspoiled, and I am glad I did).
Sounds good, thanks! I will do that. I’m OK with meandering if there’s a purpose to it 😃. (Not all who wander are lost, right?)
Dear My Friends!
Such a great show! That’s the reason I was intrigued by Our Blues in the first place, because it was the same writer. Fun to see some overlaps, like Ko Du Shim and Kim Hye Ja.
BE, you are with us again, such a delight.
BE – I agree with you that Lee Jung Eun is a force of nature and she dominates the screen in whatever scene she is in.
The Day I Died! Every scene she is in. Hi phL.
I’d like to say that I agree with everything said here. KFG, your reviews and the welcoming environment you’ve created inspire truly thoughtful, insightful conversations, especially during group watches. Thanks to you, even our disagreements don’t create tensions or inhibit us from expressing our opinions, but help us to see the versatility of shows and their characters.
Ah, thank you so much, MariaF! Even though I haven’t been able to participate much in the group watch discussions, it has been a pleasure to see you all dig in with such relish, and it’s so wonderful, that you guys can disagree in such a cordial and productive way! I love it. ❤️
Thank you for contributing to that amazing dynamic, MariaF! 😘
Thanks to you, even our disagreements don’t create tensions or inhibit us from expressing our opinions, but help us to see the versatility of shows and their characters.
Fangurl – Great post, and I admit 🤦♀️to breaking more than one of those rules in the past. 🙄😏😌 This site has grown since 2020 and more folks are visiting here. Having a set of commenting rules helps everyone get along.
You know the reason I love this place is because it is a safe place to express my viewpoint. You always make everyone feel welcome and loved. You are so gracious Fangurl! Thank you for having this fantastic little community where I can visit and chat Dramas with truly wonderful folks.
I know you must be putting in a ton of hours into this and over at (the best!) Patreon. I have often told you that your content is top notch. I was once subscribed to your “all” feed and the amount of emails was massive. Whew, you cannot possibly respond to all the comments. I used to shake my head and wonder how you could read all of that mail.
I hope you are taking time for yourself. I hope you are taking a vacation this year to get refreshed. How about a post with location photos from your vacation? I would love to know that you took some time out for you.
Aw my dear @phl1rxd, thank you for sticking with me through all these years!! You really have witnessed the blog go through many growth milestones!! ❤️❤️
It blows my mind that the blog has grown so much, honestly. I still remember getting so excited when the blog got its first few views, on my very first day on WordPress! 😅 Several weeks in, I got suuper excited at the blog hitting 54 views in a day!
It’s so surreal to think that now, it is literally physically impossible for me to respond to all comments. 😝 I’m so grateful that everyone’s been so patient and understanding! 🥰
I’m slowly making adjustments to my schedule, to allow myself a little more breathing room and wiggle room, and well, let’s see.. perhaps I will eventually get to the point of actually taking a vacation. Baby steps! 😅
Hi kfangirl, thank you for this post! It is always welcome to have some guideposts even when they usually boil down to, as j3ffc said, kindergarten rules haha. This blog – your content, your frameworks of what makes a good show, your insights into how the K media industry works, your cultural commentary whether through special posts like the Food one, or through comments in your reviews, AND the community of opinionated yet respectful-of-differences fellow viewers – all of this has made this blog a special and unique place to hang out on the Internet!
Aw thank you Elaine!! You truly make this blog sound quite magical, the way you put it; you are ever so very kind!! 🥰🥰
And absolutely yes, the community is so special; it feels like we’re witnessing lightning in a bottle almost, with the way everyone is so respectful of differences of opinion, and so generous to share their own experiences and insights. I do love that, so much. ❤️
So many of these guidelines boil down to “behave as you learned in kindergarten” (i.e., don’t hit, be nice, put the toys back), but adults often need reminders. Kfangurl’s recommendations are timely, appropriate, and generously and thoughtfully stated. Thank you for your continued efforts to make this blog a safe and enjoyable space to share our enthusiasm for dramas and to connect as a community.
I join others here in saying you should never worry about responding to our comments. We are happy when you do please know that your voice and personality permeate everything about the blog and we know how much you have on your plate.
Tee hee! @j3ffc Your superfluous spoiler test made me giggle, I love your sense of humor! 😍 I am always happy to read your comments, even though I’ve been very sporadic about actually replying. 😅 Thank you so much for the kind words and support! ❤️
Oh yay. I mostly lurk but actually had noticed some misogynistic/trolly comments lately and it was kind of disheartening.
Hi rookie!! Thanks for delurking, it’s great to meet you officially! 😃 I’m sorry to hear that you came across unpleasant comments recently.. I will do my best to oversee and moderate the comments as necessary.
Please feel free to reach out via email to let me know if you come across a comment that you feel needs moderation. I sometimes miss them, especially if I wake up to more than a hundred comments in the morning. 😅
KFG – you must know, you must feel all our appreciation of your creation – you gave us a wonderful place to meet, to share, to learn, to understand, to create, to connect with people of different walks of life and different countries, to hang out “all together now” – the only thing we probably miss is as the koreans would say, a cup of COPPEE.
for me personally, you brought light at the time of the cruel pandemic, and now, beyond that – you brought a completely different aspect into my life, that i never suspected existed. i am eternally grateful for that.
and even that you rarely jump into our discussions now, we all feel your presence with us, as this blog is simply put YOU.
thank you again, best job ever, KFG!
o, and one more thing. i myself had a number of accidents with the spoiler issue, but now with the introduction of the spoiler zones in our group watching, i think problem solved, mainly.
Aw, thank you eda, for your lovely encouragement!! It’s so great to know that the blog’s actually brought you to discover a new aspect of your life; I LOVE THAT! 🤩 That makes me feel so chuffed, like I’m doing something super useful, in running this blog. 😁😅 Thank you! 😘
Your comment policy is very gracious and ever so warmly welcomed, kfangurl. I find the policy reassuring and to my mind, it clearly reflects the tone I have come to enjoy so much regarding your blog along the way during my ever expanding drama journey 😊
@seankfletcher Ah, thank you Sean! I’m so glad that you like the commenting policy!!
Also, I love that you find it reassuring.. it’s always a little bit worrying when introducing a policy page, that people might find it too dictatorial, or suffocating. The fact that you describe it as gracious just made my day! Thank you, kind sir! ❤️
KFG — not gonna lie, it’s always extra great when you’re able to engage and interact in the comments, and your absence is definitely felt, BUT I also recognize how time-consuming it must be to ride herd on a big ol’ blog, plus generate a constant stream of high quality content, and (I hope!) have a life.
So yeah, I’m never gonna turn down more KFG in the comments, but if the balance ever gets out of whack, I hope you’ll prioritize whatever things are important in your life, and know we (I trust I’m not just speaking for myself) support you all the way…
Aw thanks Trent, for being so supportive!! 🥰🥰
I’ve felt my own absence in the comments (if that makes sense! 😅), so I definitely would like to engage more, and am looking for a way to find a better balance. Perhaps cut down a little bit, on the frequency of posts, to create more breathing space for me to engage.. I’ll be experimenting with that, to see if that would be a good solution.
KFG-Thank you so much for the explanation of the spoiler tag, I have never used one so I was flummoxed as to how to do one. Your explanation was very helpful.
And I just want to say, I LOVE your blog, it is my go-to when I am curious about a show and want to know more about it before deciding if I’m gonna watch it. Obviously you haven’t watched ALL of them but I, most of the time, will find what I’m looking for. Thank you for your dedication, it is a blessing to all us drama show lovers.
Aw YAY that you found the explanation on the spoiler tag useful, Kim!! Give it a try soon, and see how it works for you! 😃
Also, I’m so glad to hear that you do manage to find what you’re looking for, most of the time. It’s been on my mind too, how I’m just not able to keep up with all the shows that I’m curious to check out – which means that I’m not able to offer any opinion on the shows I miss, for folks looking for an indication of whether the show’s for them.
Your comment makes me feel better about that! Thank you! 😘
Dear kfangirl, FOMO is an awful feeling and can rob us of joy. Watch the shows you like, I think you follow many more shows than I can possibly keep up with. We don’t want you to get burned out on your passion, so take things easier!
Well said Elaine! 👏👏🌹
Aw, thank you Elaine!! I will remind myself to keep following my heart, rather than get overly distracted by FOMO. 🙈😅
FYI, I personally never experienced any sort of technical problems with the site – just to put your mind at ease.
And I have very rarely came across offensive posts – by that I mean sexist/misogynistic, but they are so rare that are not even worth mentioning. So in all, your blog to me is a paradise to escape the Net World’s toxicity and I thank you for that!
Oh! I’m so glad to hear that you didn’t experience any technical problems, Natalia!! That makes me feel a little better, that perhaps the problems weren’t as widespread as I’d imagined. 😅 That said, I’m still glad that it’s all sorted out now, it was really hanging over my head for a while there! 😝
Whew! KFG, you scared me! I was sure you were going to chastise us for going off topic on various tangents or something like that.
We know how hard you work so I can’t believe you’re apologizing to us!???
You do an amazing job of juggling watching, writing and responding to us!
Ahaha, tangents are perfectly ok around here!! But I have felt bad for being so absent in comments. I’d like to do better on that, for sure.
And well, this post was originally just to announce the new commenting policy, but it kinda ballooned a little bit, with the other things that I’ve had on my mind, for a while. 😅
my thoughts exactly 🥰
@Beez – I had a bit of a chuckle at your comment re going off topic. Imagine not being able to comment on your favourite topics of conversation 😱🤣😂
I’m imagining me having tape over my virtual mouth and having some sort of apolectic fit.
@Beez – lololol…
@Beez – I really needed that laugh.😅🤣😂😆😁😅🤣😂😆😆
I’ve always liked Chuno too beez, just sayin’.
@BE – It feels so intimate to know that others know and remember my faves 😉
You forgot one thing though, BE – it’s always CHUNO!
(So glad to see you.)