i was also a victim of bullying back in school for some years. i can understand, why some people stay quiet. 🙁 sometimes all you want is to forget all the humiliation. So seeing someone who caused you so much pain repeatedly on the big or small screen, opening all these wounds again and again, must be horrible.

I’ve never seen any of Ji Soos work, but i read that he was born in 1993 and the bullying happend between 2006-2008. That means he was 13/15 years old at that time. Kids do a lot of shit when they are young. And most of them luckily grow up and realize that what they did was wrong.

I met one of my bullies many years later and i actually got a decent apology. We both were in our late twenties, when she finally said “sorry”. It did not make everything okay, but i did feel better and could finally move on.

What Ji Soo did, happened 13 years ago. He might or might not be remorseful, but i give him some credit, that he didnt deny the accusations and instead posted an apology. There were lots of scandals involving celebrities in the past years and many of them choose to just deny all the allegations.

Ji Soo also could have just denied it as there might not be much proof of his actions during that time, if any at all. So to admit he did something wrong is a good thing. i hope he grew up to be a decent person in the last 13 years. We have to wait for the outcome of the investigation. Everything apart from the bullying is not confirmed yet, so nobody should jump to conclusions or believe everything that was additionally posted anonymously later on.

Not guilty until proven guilty. I will give him the benefit of doubt. Not for the bullying accusations tough.

I have a real problem with holding a 27 year old – or a 20 year old – responsible for what they may have gone in middle school, especially when the punishment is a lifetime of penance. Nothing this guy allegedly did – and I don’t accept third hand accounts of things like sexual assault from anyone but an alleged victim – is a criminal act that carries a penalty of life imprisonment. And a lot of the later allegations – like low level staff on the drama set anonymously alleging he was an asshole who treated staff badly – was not credible, snd sounded like people piling on someone who had hot rock bottom.

The more troubling allegations were vague, and included acts that allegedly occurred when he was in his early 20s. I still never heard even an anonymous report from an actual “victim” of sexual assault, so I think the bullying and meanness in middle school are the most credible allegations. In my opinion, absent proof he has done something egregious in the last 4 or 5 years, he seems rehabilitated. Also, he apparently sought out some of the people he’d bullied in the past, several years ago, and apologized. If he’d just been doing it with the intent of avoiding public censure, he could have used a third party, snd/or offered a financial incentive to remain silent. But per what was reported, he just apologized.

I think it’s a good idea for him to go do his military duty. He will have time to reflect on his past, snd he’s faced pretty severe consequences. Atonement should not require a lifetime bar to a career he apparently loved and excelled at. To err is human, to forgive divine. Everyone deserves the opportunity to turn their life around, especially kids who make errors when they are still kids.

This was all definitely a disappointing turn of events. My thoughts are pretty similar to yours. River is one of my most looked forward to dramas, so I do still plan to watch it. It looks like Na In Woo was able to come in at episode 7, so he will end up being in more of the drama than Ji Soo. It sounds like they will be able to maintain the quality of the drama with just needing to do some reshoots and not lots of writing changes. Such a bad situation all around though.

Unpopular Opinion: The allegations made after many years should all be ignored.

If you have been wronged and do not report it, it is your fault. If you report him after so many years, you obviously have an ulterior motive.

Like you, kfangurl, I take a middle of the road stance. Without more verified facts of what’s true and what’s not true … let’s just say I’m glad it’s not my decision to make. Middle school was a very long time ago. Did the behavior continue on in high school? If not, what made him stop? I’m just curious about what’s goes on in a person’s life that behaves this way.

Either way, it looks like CutieSoo needs some counseling no matter what happens cause it sounds like he’s got some serious issues even if only the bullying is true. The other acts are too horrific to even think about.

And if it’s true he recorded himself having sex with a girl and showed it to his friends,that gives some insight into S.K. culture. Don’t get me wrong, there are creeps here that do that too, but the boys know it’s wrong (probably because of a few high profile cases that were prosecuted with the boys losing scholarships and getting jail time) so boys who do participate in that behavior keep it down low enough not to be caught. Whereas video taping having sex with unconscious women and paying it on private chat rooms seems to almost be a part of the male S.K. culture. Or maybe it’s just in the public eye because of all the celebrities busted over it. (And all the cameras stuck on selfie poles for purposes of looking under skirts that has been in the Korean news.)

I have nothing of import to say but I’ll say this about the show River 1) I was disappointed right from the start because I’d recently read the folk tale of the Princess and the Fool On Dal. In the story On Dal is a humpback and the Princess’ father was always threatening her that he’ll marry her off to On Dal and one day, out of spite, she up and marries On Dal. That would’ve been something to see how they could work that romance (and I thought JiSoo was perfect for that gullible role. 2) Not enough Kang Haneul.

Hi Kfangurl, bullying is something that I have personal experience with and it’s something that lingers in your mind. Even though you grow up and it doesn’t affect you anymore, it stays as a bad experience that’s not easily forgotten. Having said that, I don’t think that people should not be forgiven forever. As someone who has suffered under bullying, I do think there should be consequences, but also I wouldn’t like to condemn anyone to a lifetime of consequences, if you know what I mean. So I hope after some reflection that Jisoo will come back as a better actor and a better person.

Also, I haven’t started watching River where the moon rises, but I think I will now. I’d like to see what they make of it and I liked Na In Woo in Mr Queen. So hope he’s not being set up for some failure because of people abandoning the show. I would have liked your analyses on the changes as well. I think it’s sad for the rest of the cast and crew having worked so hard on the show, so I’ll support them in my little way. It probably won’t make a difference😁, bit still.

Ahhh this was hard, really hard for me. Since I really liked him in Strong Woman…But if there is any truth behind the sexual violence charges, well he should be punished by the law!

Well, I am not JiSoo fan. I have only seen him in Strong Woman and Moon Lovers and, to be honest, he’s one of those actors that made me think that anyone can become an actor in Korea as long as he’s over 1,8 m tall, regardless of talent.
About anonymous accusations on the web, though: we very well know they may be completely truthful and they may be a form of bullying too. JiSoo has already admitted to being a bully, so obviously the first accusations were truthful, but that doesn’t mean one should easily believe all one-line comments that may have been made by nitwits that think it’s fun to throw stones.
And, once more, I really can’t understand what’s with bullying in schools in SK. Why don’t adults do anything about it and how is it possible to actually think bullies are cool (to JiSoo’s support, when he was a bully, like 10 years ago, the whole of SK and a big chunk of Asia swooned for the “F4” gang in Boys over Flowers…).
Bottom line: I won’t miss JiSoo, but it’s about time bullying must be dealt with, cyberbullying included.

Middle ground for me as well. Both in terms of consequences and what to believe. Just because 90% of the allegations appear to be accurate doesn’t mean they all are. The primary allegations were described in great detail by two different people.

But from what I can tell, the rape allegation was a one-liner by a different anonymous poster. Surely we’ve all had enough experience with the Internet not to trust random comments like that. Of course, given who Ji Soo was back then, it wouldn’t be surprising if even the rape claim were true; but you shouldn’t take it seriously just because of that one-liner.

One thing I’ve learned in my five (going on six!) decades of experience with other humans is the pernicious danger of allowing unsubstantiated gossip to enter your brain. Once you let it in, it permanently colors your impression of that person, even someone you know very well. Although you tell yourself it’s not verified and doesn’t fit with your own experience of them, it still changes how you perceive them.

Regardless, what I’d like to talk about is the nature of K-ent scandals more broadly.

This time, it’s an open & shut case, with actual victims.

But what about all those victimless scandals that so quickly ruin an entertainer’s life? For example, over relatively minor drug use?

(Not to mention the scandal of an adult celebrity dating, therefore interfering with their fans’ romantic fantasies. And, yes, I realize that’s an entirely different use of the word “scandal,” but it still says something about the Korean public’s expectations for and/or feelings about public figures.)

Tbh, it’s not clear to me what is real about Korean culture and what is merely a tendency for K-drama scripts, but based on the shows I get the feeling all public figures should consider themselves in constant danger of being exposed to a career-ending scandal, and more much so for entertainers. As if that’s part of the not-so-healthy fun of having celebrities in the first place.

One of my favorites observations from Australia is that “the tall poppy gets cut first.” Which is short-hand to describe any culture where people of high status are resented, attacked or criticized because their achievements make them stand out from their peers. We love them, but we also love to see them cut down to size.

I am in the middle camp on this as well and agree it is easier when you are not massively invested in the actor. But first and foremost my thoughts are with the victims and I think they deserve a thorough investigation and we have also got to remember that some of these victims will not to want relive the trauma through an investigation. It sounds that there are multiple victims in this and I hope they have access to counseling. I have to say I didn’t realise the extent of what had passed and I feel sick to stomach. Should Ji Soo get credit for his apology? If he is genuinely repentant about the effect he has had on others then maybe so but if it is simply because he has been caught out then no. Reading his apology it feels to me that he always knew that at some point that his “dark history” would catch up. You could also argue that it is karma that this happened when he was at a huge break through in his career. I also wonder if when his fame had cemented some of those insidious behaviours would have come out again and by the victims being brave enough to come forward they have stopped future victims. He is clearly a very troubled individual
and if sexual assaults claims are true then also a very dangerous individual. There maybe some underlying family background issues but people come from troubled backgrounds all the time and that is no excuse and I hope he also receives a psychological assessment.
As for the show I am dropping it but I do commend those who will peservere as we should not forget the blood and sweat and tears of those who made the drama. Imagine being caught up in this through no fault of your own.
I want to say I hope it is cautionary tale for young stars coming through but maybe I am being naive and think why would you need a cautionary tale to temper your behaviour?

Wow I had no idea until your post came out and I went to google what happened. It’s a pity since I liked Ji Soo when I saw him in SWDBS and elsewhere. He seemed like such a nice guy. But it’s true that they’re actors and human – you can’t go by what you see of them – their public persona may be different from their private selves. And while I agree that he seems contrite and willing to change, I agree that he should be punished for crimes committed against others. Hopefully he’ll change and see what future he has in store for him. Thanks, KFG, for a nuanced and objective perspective!

Thank you, kfangurl for your calm contribution regarding Ji Soo. Dame Holly and I had a very thoughtful exchange recently regarding her post on a very similar topic and the internal debate one has regarding watching a show(s) going forward when certain things come to light.

I had drafted much regarding what is a reasonable response and then deleted it. My thoughts were turning into War and Peace and some of it may have ended up “lost in translation.” Anyway, the long and the short of it is this: I will be watching River through to the end, unless the story nose dives for the worst.

I agree with you, I am in the middle. When I saw all these bullying news, I thought that their society really need to tackle this issue, it seems to be an on-going problem that is not going to be solved by accusing all these k-pop stars. Bullying is bad everywhere (in every country, let’s stop comparing who has it worse), and there are ways to stop it from happening. However, not all countries have the same policies/viewpoints on how to tackle it. Kids are not bad when they start off their lives, it is what family & society teaches them as acceptable behaviours that makes them who they are. In SK, teachers & schools probably should have a bit more power than parents to punish kids properly and not let them get away with that type of behaviour in the school grounds. And at home, parents should teach kids not to bully or to help kids that are being bullied. In addition to that, adults working with these school kids should be trained early to have empathy and to always listen when kids have complaints, and not dismiss them. It helps to know that an adult will believe you and will ] help you. Then when they grow up, if they see their bullies on tv and all that, it would not hurt as much. They would have known that their bullies were punished at the time of the crime and they would have moved on. Right now, I don’t know if the victims are being protected against the crazy fans that say everyone should forgive him. And it might not make them feel good to be responsible somewhat for ruining drama staff and actors careers (because so many people are probably not going to watch it now).

RIVER WHERE THE MOON RISES was THE sageuk I was looking forward to watching this year. Imagine my shock and surprise after this news broke. I feel the worst for the production, the other actors and the crew, but hope in my heart of hearts Jisoo is contrite, but also resilient enough to deal with the fallout and take his punishment, which is certainly deserved if even half of the allegations are true. And I pray he doesn’t take his life like others that have met similar allegations. What I don’t see or hear is the elephant in the room—the underlying pervasive S. Korean toxic paternalistic culture and also the hierarchical nature of schools and organizations that put people in underserved positions of power, just because they are older, and abuse that power, consistently, aggressively. I couldn’t get past the first episode of BOYS OVER FLOWERS because of this. How many dramas start with a school bullying scene? Leading to suicide? I can think of a half dozen in the time I type this sentence. It’s a problem and that needs to be addressed. I always ask, “Where are the adults?” Having a pre-teen and a teenager myself and knowing how mean kids are, I am very sensitive to the bullying culture. Just this week, my daughter is trying to support a girl who feels that she’s being bullied. I’m glad to be on a position to be able to help my daughter communicate with this girl and to help her. You hit my trigger and I’ll get off my soap box now. I’ll be watching MOON RIVER until the end and I know it will be painful in more than one way for me, but for the other actors and production crew who did absolutely nothing wrong, I feel I owe it to them and especially Kim So Hyun, who I probably feel the worst about. Poor girl.

He should definitely endure the consequences of this exposure and make reparations to the victims. If I were him and was truly affected by the weigh of my past actions, I would seize the opportunity of being a celebrity to talk genuinely to students in schools and universities and expose the degree of devastation that victims of toxic, abusive and even criminal behaviour endure as a result. It is a good time for him to truly give back to society and find a true purpose doing so.

All i will say about this scandal involving Jisoo is that its so unfortunate that at this stage when his career is finally picking up, this befalls him.
My thoughts are with him and i certainly hope the the good people of SK forgives him.
I also hope that the victims in this case find closure as well.
I also hope he returns to acting.

I found this scandal particularly sickening, but I can’t put a finger on why, given the number of heinous scandals that have happened. The post from the alleged set staffer saying that Ji Soo was a jerk on set too kind of solidified my assessment of his character.

I don’t know what the statute of limitations is in South Korea, but if it hasn’t expired and if there is proof, I think he should be charged – for all of it, but especially for the sexual assault allegations.

If that doesn’t happen, I hope he can find something to do out of the public eye. I don’t think he has a personality that does well with fame.