If my many hours of drama watching have taught me anything, it’s that, more than expensively-produced dramas that are all polish with very little soul, it’s the shows that lay their heart on the table, that tend to grab me, and then stick with me, long after the credits have stopped rolling.
In this sense, I’d say Go Back Spouses is kinda like the little drama that could.
There are no Big Budgets here, and Show isn’t even that elegantly written, to be honest.
But, Show packs so much heartfelt goodness in its compact 12-episode package, that I find myself eager to sing its praises – and forgive its faults. Given that these days, I’ve been quicker to drop shows than ever before, I hafta say that’s No Small Deal.
THIS ISN’T TIME TRAVEL
If, like me, you’ve gotten more than a little weary – and wary! – of time-travel dramas, I’m happy to set the record straight, that Go Back Spouses isn’t a time-travel story. Whew.
Instead, this is more of a second-chance drama. Our protagonists Jin Joo and Ban Do (Jang Na Ra and Sohn Ho Jun) are the only versions of themselves in 1999, in a time rewind situation where they get to relive their twenties all over again.
There aren’t other younger versions of themselves running around in this version of 1999. Here, there is no future yet. The future is theirs to walk towards, all over again, only this time, they have the benefit of hindsight and possibly a little more wisdom.
I found Show’s key question intriguing and even rather thought-provoking: Would you make the same choices all over again, if you were given a second chance?
STUFF I ENJOYED
Sohn Ho Jun and Jang Na Ra
I honestly feel like these roles were written for Sohn Ho Joon and Jang Na Ra; they just feel so perfectly cast.
They are required to play older and younger versions of their characters, and deliver both drama and comedy in turn, which is a pretty tall order, in my books.
Props to them both, I felt like they were equally comfortable and adept at either end of both spectrums, and that they delivered consistently well.
At the same time, I felt that these two shared a solid chemistry in every facet and variant of Ban Do and Jin Joo’s relationship that they were portraying.
I personally found this OTP a slow burn, because Show took its time bringing to the fore, why we ought to root for their reconciliation in the first place.
What I will say, though, is, once Show convinced me that these two were better off together than apart, that it wasn’t long before I was fully on board – despite my heart bleeding a little, for our melty second lead (more on that in a bit).
With Show giving so much early attention to Ban Do’s interactions with first love Seo Young (Go Bo Kyul) and Jin Joo’s run-ins with young smitten suitor Nam Gil (Jang Ki Yong), it was pretty late in the game before we got a glimpse into why this couple was worth rooting for.
The first time I remember softening towards the idea of this reconciliation is in episode 9, when we see that Ban Do’s flashbacks are focused on Jin Joo.
That’s when I began to see that these two were very much in love, once upon a time. Ban Do’s realization and regret, as he thinks back to how Jin Joo made so many sacrifices for him, without even mentioning it, counts for quite a bit, in my books.
I also really liked the time in episode 10, when we see Ban Do’s thoughtfulness and care towards Jin Joo show up.
It’s such an everyday sort of thing, but I loved that when he sees Jin Joo experiencing period-related discomfort, he goes to buy painkillers for her without even being asked. I appreciate how he’s already at the pharmacist, when Jin Joo, in a moment of desperation, calls him for help. I love that he buys the sanitary napkins without blinking an eye, even though the female customers nearby are giving him funny looks.
That’s love and loyalty, right there.
Plus, I do love the fact that even though Ban Do has swallowed his pride and allowed Dr. Park (Im Ji Kyu) to walk all over him for so long, he simply can’t hold it together when he hears that Dr. Park had hit or tried to hit Jin Joo. That really says so much about how much he cares about her.
Jang Ki Yong as Nam Gil
Jang Ki Yong is great as our reluctantly smitten second lead, and I’m gonna hafta say, this boy made my heart wobble more than a couple of times, over the course of this show.
I wanted only good things for him, and since he found himself smitten with Jin Joo, I couldn’t help but squee at every near-proximity, hyper-aware interaction that he shared with Jin Joo.
For a good long stretch, the highlight of every episode for me, was how Nam Gil got intrigued and discombobulated by Jin Joo.
Jang Ki Yong’s got an excellent reaction face, and his tamped-down alarmed, nervous discomfiture at every up-close-and-personal interaction with Jin Joo, is pretty fantastic.
I rooted for Nam Gil pretty hard, so it’s to writer-nim’s credit that Show managed to get me to board the OTP ship by the end stretch.
For the record, here are a couple of Nam Gil moments that I really enjoyed.
E3. Nam Gil staring at the scene of the accidental hug, hours later. So cute. I think this is the moment I actually started wanting more for him.
E4. Nam Gil walking away with his heart pounding, after coolly telling Jin Joo to stop flirting with him. Ha. And then the library double rescue, followed by her working to help him with his ankle, his protests falling on deaf ears.
And then him, watching her during the history department gathering, and then following her home, just to make sure she was safe.
And then, for him to then see her sobbing in the bus all over again, after being bright and chipper all evening – boy never stood a chance; he was so gonna lose his heart to this girl.
E5. Nam Gil going out of his way to return Jin Joo’s wallet is pretty cute. Pretending that his leg still hurt, so that she’d follow him around. Sneaky boy.
E6. Nam Gil buying Jin Joo a dress is kind of cliched, but the great lengths he goes to, to make the gift look casual and convenient, is cute. That, and his nervous, discombobulated face, heh.
Show’s thought-provoking moments [MINOR SPOILERS]
On a more intellectual level, I find the concept of time interesting in this show. Here, the past isn’t characterized by a typical timeline.
Most interesting to me, is that fact that in this show, flashbacks can come from the future. The defining thing about what makes something a past event, is whether Ban Do and Jin Joo have lived it yet – whether here in the 90s, or in the future of 2017.
Because, if they’ve lived it in 2017, it still counts as the past for them, here in 1999. That’s pretty mind-bendy stuff, and I love it.
On a more visceral level, despite some of Show’s more ungainly moments (more on that later), I found that there’s a bittersweet quality about this drama which I enjoyed very well.
The nostalgia of revisiting one’s youth and the wistfulness that surrounds that; the sadness associated with wounds that still feel fresh even though one has the chance at a do-over; all that, combined with the confusing yet exciting plethora of choice that seems to lie ahead – the possibility of rewriting one’s future.
All of this creates a poignant context for the other events in our story, and gives everything an overlay of extra meaning.
There is gained wisdom from the years that Jin Joo and Ban Do have lived before the redo, but it also feels like these two can’t quite fit into their past as easily or as comfortably as they did before.
I found it interesting that Ban Do and Jin Joo reap the benefits of adulthood in different ways. Ban Do is more confident, wise, and even a little suave.
On the other hand, Jin Joo acts and talks like an ahjumma. Every time she responded to Nam Gil’s romantic overtures with her signature ahjumma “Aiyooo..!” I cringed a little in secondhand embarrassment.
But, I realize that this simply reflects the marriage that Ban Do and Jin Joo had; he went out to interact with people, while she stayed home and looked after the kid and the house.
Which begs the question: if we are truly shaped by our experiences, then does this do-over truly exist, since both Ban Do and Jin Joo can’t leave their experiences behind?
One example of a specific scene that I found affecting and thought-provoking, is in episode 6, when Jin Joo struggles to see herself as a worthy contestant in the May Queen contest.
Jin Joo’s inability to see her own beauty and talent, is very poignant to me. It’s true. When your loved one puts you down and tramples on your self-esteem repeatedly over an extended period of time, that is what happens to you.
You find it hard to have confidence in yourself, and it’s a long journey getting back your self-confidence. Not only that, the start of that journey back to self-confidence often feels like embarking on the impossible.
My heart really went out to Jin Joo when she seemed clueless about her potential, and couldn’t believe that she stood a chance in the May Queen contest.
For this reason – the fact that Ban Do has hurt her and brought her down to this level – I really wanted her to move on from him, properly. In fact, I even found myself thinking, “Yes, Seo Jin wouldn’t exist, but in this timeline, Seo Jin isn’t real?”
I just felt so fiercely protective of her, as she struggled to deal with the scars of her marriage, even while she got a chance to live everything over again.
Kim Mi Kyung as Jin Joo’s mom
Hands-down my favorite character of this entire drama world, is Kim Mi Kyung as Jin Joo’s mom.
Even though Mom doesn’t enjoy as many scenes as our main couple and their friends, Mom consistently stole the show, whenever she showed up on my screen.
From the way Jin Joo couldn’t stop hugging Mom and kept trailing after her, to the way Jin Joo kept crawling into bed to take refuge in Mom’s arms, to the way Mom fussed over Jin Joo and blew dry her hair at the bath house, every moment we see between these two, is so sweet and precious.
The thing that moves me the most, though, is how Mom remains so strong, loving and wise through it all.
She has no idea why her daughter keeps crying in her arms, but she doesn’t question it. She simply holds her and comforts her, and remains steadfastly her daughter’s rock and anchor.
Mom moved me in a deeply visceral way, and I love her, So Much. <3
STUFF I ENJOYED LESS
The writing isn’t very elegant, for the most part
This writing in this show is not elegant by any means, and sometimes feels like convenient connect-the-dots storytelling. Still, it gets the job done, generally speaking.
There are 2 examples in episode 3, of this connect-the-dots type of storytelling.
1. The random DJs with stomachaches who then conveniently leave their studio on air, so that Jin Joo and Ban Do can accidentally broadcast their argument to the whole school. That felt randomly inserted and quite clumsy, to me.
2. The drunk nightclub scene, where a drunk Jin Joo stumbles onto the stage and addresses Ban Do through the mic.
I found the entire thing not very believable at all, because surely Jin Joo would’ve been dragged off the stage by a staff member – or several – long before she was able to give that long rant into the mic?
Additionally, I also didn’t like the childish angle Show took with Jin Joo and Ban Do’s estranged state of affairs, early in their 1999 revisit.
Each time they tried to one-up each other, it came across as childish and petty. The care they had for each other wasn’t showcased much at all, and most of Show’s focus was on the disdain they felt for each other.
That didn’t help in terms of getting me to care about their potential reconciliation.
In fact, for a long time, it seemed to me that the reactions they had when they saw the other person with what appeared to be a new love interest, were rooted less in actual jealousy, and more in a sense of betrayal. Like, how could you move on so quickly from me, you jerk?
If the writing could’ve been more layered and nuanced around that, it would’ve been nice.
Show’s sense of humor isn’t always my cup of tea
If you’ve known me for a while, you’d likely know that I don’t often jive with broad, OTT, gag humor. While Show wasn’t always unfunny to me, there were definitely times when I cringed at the Intended Funny.
Here are just a few examples.
E3. The projectile vomiting at the nightclub, with vomit landing on random people on the ground floor, was unnecessary and gross.
E4. Dok Jae (Lee Yi Kyung) getting his drunken head stuck in the gate was played for comedy, but I didn’t feel amused.
E6. The DOTS parody made me cringe. Just, why?
The cheerleading couple
I hafta admit, I didn’t much care for the secondary loveline between Bo Reum and Jae Woo (Han Bo Reum and Huh Jung Min).
Generally speaking, I found their lovey-dovey moments cheesy and cringey, and overall, I found this plotline a tad too childish for my taste. I personally could’ve done with a lot less of this couple on my screen.
THOUGHTS ON THE ENDING [SPOILERS]
Show leaves us with an ending that feels quite perfect, to my eyes.
Ban Do’s decision to break things off with Jin Joo, believing that he’s doing the better thing for her, is sad to watch. But it’s crystal clear that he’s doing the most selfless thing, with his eyes only on Jin Joo’s happiness, and that is moving indeed.
Later, when he sobs alone, apologizing again and again to his unborn son who would now never get to exist, my heart breaks with his, and I can’t help but be sucked into his pain.
Nam Gil’s farewell date with Jin Joo is simple and heartfelt, with honest conversation accompanied by simple pleasures like kimbap and tteokbokki in a park.
In particular, I love Jin Joo’s response to Nam Gil’s final confession. The way she walks up to him and hugs him, and thanks him for liking her, then tells him he’s a good person who just doesn’t know how warm-hearted he is yet, is just so kind and sweet.
She is so thoughtful too, letting him leave the playground first, because she remembers how he’d hated being left alone in the playground when he was small.
Altogether, it’s a moment that feels poignant and pure, and while my heart aches for Nam Gil, I feel content that this is where his first love ends.
More than anything, though, it’s Jin Joo’s alone time with Mom that hits me, so hard, in the heart. Mom’s resilience, strength, grace and love is so very beautiful to behold, as she holds her daughter and tells her it’s ok to go.
This, while the realization of why Jin Joo’s been acting so strange is so fresh on her mind and her heart, along with the new knowledge that she will not be around to see the birth of Jin Joo’s baby.
And yet, Mom puts herself aside, and is strong and gentle and kind and loving, as she advises her daughter to go back to her child. Augh. My heart. It’s just so beautiful and so heartbreaking and so moving, at the same time.
I love that Jin Joo and Ban Do get to have dinner with Mom and Dad one last time, before they leave the past. And, I can’t help but notice how sexy Ban Do gets, when he puts on his bedroomy gaze. Flail. I need Sohn Ho Jun in more romantic leading man roles, please.
Jin Joo’s happy tears at seeing Seo Jin again make my heart so full, and I love Ban Do’s tearful relief as he holds his wife and son for the first time, all over again. Love, love, love.
It’s gratifying too, to see that pretty much everyone else’s lives have been improved by Ban Do and Jin Joo’s trip to the past; Seol is no longer missing from their lives; Jae Woo and Bo Reum reunite as a couple; Nam Gil is married and is daddy to a little kid; Ye Rim (Lee Do Yun) is no longer married to cheater-schemer Dr. Park.
We even get a cheesy low-rent fantasy explanation for why the rings are magical, which is a fun touch.
All in all, a finale that not only tugs hard at my heartstrings, but fills my heart while it does so. Thank you, Show. <3
THE FINAL VERDICT:
A little rough around the edges, but so full of heart that it’s easy to love anyway.
FINAL GRADE: B++
WHERE TO WATCH:
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I’m so glad I found this review (not read yet) I just wanted to let you lnow that the title on Netflix is “Couple on the backtrack”, so I almost didn’t find it… I saw that you usually list the reviews with all the variations of the titles, making it easier to find.
+++ Thanks again for all your hard and sooo useful work!!
Hi Céline, thanks for letting me know! I hadn’t realized Netflix had a different title. I’ve just updated my drama lists, thanks again! ❤️
your opinion is a little different with me in this. I didnt watch kdrama that many because Iam more a movie gal than series gal. but one day I really need something heartwarming and somehow I stumble upon this. and I’m soooo grateful. to this day, this is the best kdrama I watch (again, I didnt watch that many so my experience maybe biased). I feel feelings when I watched this. this is my first Jang Nara drama and I have crushed on her because of it.
it is almost perfect if it doesnt has: the white car of doom, the fell from the stair, and then the cair fell and hit the man.
jin joo & her mother relationship is the highlight of this Drama. so touching. her mother also very likeable. after watching this, I said to myself “I’m going to pamper my mom so much”
I always rooting for the husband although it falter for very short time in the middle of the show. I really really respect him when he buy pads for her. You know, not every man willing to do that (based on experience here). so that act alone is proof how good of a man he is.
AND I never cry (as long as I remember) when ML in movies/shows crying, but I cried when he said why is he always apologizing, whe is he always feeling guilty, how he is always sincere. gosh good acting! very good to the extent I ship him and Jang Nara end up together in real life hahahaha. I watch almost all of Jang Nara’s dramas and I think he is the best man of all her men in her dramas.
I also like DOTS parody although it makes no sense. but agree about cheerleader couple, I sometimes skip their scene, just because I’m so curios about Ban Do-Jin joo realtionship and eagerly want to know what happened soon
also I like that there’s no real villain here like in every kdrama(except dr. Park). the second leads are also charming and they are not bad people.
PS. now I think you should at least try watch Sell Your Haunted House. Jang Nara is so different here from all of her role in the past. it’s not scary, I swear
Loved it! Full of humor, heart, and wisdom.
So glad you checked out this one, Snow Flower!! I loved this one too! 🤩🤩 So full of heart indeed! And Kim Mi Kyung is ❤️❤️❤️.
Kim Mi Kyung doing the moonwalk!😊❤
I’m a little late to k-dramaland but I hafta say, the only thing I like more than watching k-dramas, is reading your reviews after watching them (like this one)… you somehow manage to put into words almost exactly the same things that I thought but couldn’t quite articulate, kfangurl…
Your reviews are amazing… keep ’em coming!
Aw, thanks deedee! That’s so sweet of you to say! <3 Thanks for the encouragement and support; I'm so glad you enjoy the reviews! 😀 Big welcome to the blog – and to Dramaland! I hope you'll keep on dropping by, and that we'll get to chat dramas more often. 🙂
I’ve just finished watching the last episode of Go Back Couple/Spouses and your review expertly captures the nuances of this series. I laughed and cried and thought all the actors did a wonderful job performing their roles. I wish there were more scenes of the main couple realizing they needed to communicate better and work through their pain. I’m also pleased they were able to have closure with the past and have a healthy and happy marriage in their present. As everyone has written, the scenes with the main character and her mother were golden. I cried and cried. I was so moved by the final scene that I just called my own mother to tell her I love her. The scene where the main character told her sister to appreciate their mom and used the example that neither a woman’s husband nor her own children will sacrifice the way a mother will for her child resonated with me. I’m glad the main character was able to realize her dad was lonely and missed his wife. That’s why he wanted to remarry. Widowers usually don’t stay single long if they were in a comfortable marriage.
The only thing I found off putting were the references to skin color (e.g., at the baby’s birth, the female lead’s father making a comment about the male lead and not trusting him due to his complexion). I’ve been watching Korean dramas for six months and this is the first time I’ve seen such blatant colorism. Kfangirl, you wrote above in regards to the male lead “he’s not as tall, or as fair-skinned as the typical kdrama lead.” Are these type of colorism comments standard in Korean dramas? What is the impact of colorism in Korean casting decisions?
Thanks for this review and for sharing your opinion regarding this heart-warming drama.
Hi Arabella, thanks for enjoying the review! Yay that you loved this show, it really is a heartwarming little gem. And indeed, absolutely nothing in this show tops scenes with Mom. 😍😍😍
With regards to your question, it’s unfortunately true that fair skin is a Korean beauty standard. It’s why most Korean makeup is skewed to very fair tones, and the BB & CC creams and cushions usually only come in very limited, very fair shades. Because of that beauty standard, both male and female leads in Korean shows tend to be very fair. Comments and jokes about dark skin are unfortunately still fairly common in Korean entertainment, although there are efforts being made to change that.
It’s uncommon – though it’s slowly evolving – to see leads who are darker skinned, in Korean shows. That’s why I found it so refreshing Sohn Ho Joon cast as our male lead. For another show that I really enjoyed, that featured a male lead with a deeper skin tone, you could check out Oh Hae Young Again / Another Oh Hae Young (review here). Eric is so lovely in it. 😍 Of course, there’s also Chuno (review here), which is a (non-romance) masterpiece, where all our main male characters run around shirtless and sport deep tans. Glorious! 😍
Kfangirl – Thanks for your insightful reply to my questions regarding colorism in Korean drams. I’m glad to know efforts are being made to change the mindset of the population and expand casting choices for actors in their dramas. “Go Back Couple/Spouses” was released in 2017 and it appears the writers (who wrote those comments in the script) and the casting director (who cast Sohn Ho Joon as the lead) need to be more in sync. I’d like to think the writers didn’t mean to insult millions of people. And, truth be told, American media has the same issues with colorism, although they don’t make offensive statements out loud the way it is done in Korean dramas. I also appreciate you letting me know about Oh Have Young Again and Chuno as dramas that showcase actors with deeper complexions. I look forward to watching them.
I’m now watching “Second To Last Love.” I find it refreshing to see male and female leads over the age of 40 involved in a romance. Ageism is another area that needs to evolve. I enjoy watching Korean dramas and am glad I found their stories.
Take care and have a great day.
Glad you found my answer useful, Arabella! I personally rather enjoyed Second To Last Love as well, and I do love its male lead Ji Jin Hee. He’s another male lead who rocks the darker complexion. If you’re interested in checking out dramas with more mature leads, and if you don’t mind venturing into Chinese dramas, I highly recommend The First Half Of My Life. You can check out my review here, to get a flavor for it. I hope that helps, and I hope you’re enjoying your watch of Second To Last Love! 🙂
I’ve only begun to visit your blog a week or so ago and found that your taste in kdramas (and a few c-dramas, wink) align with mine, so I’ve been lurking around trying to find the next drama to latch onto (been in a bit of a drama slump). I skimmed through this drama review last weekend and was convinced that this would just be exactly what I needed.
And I was right! The writing wasn’t perfect, as you said, but it had so much heart and warmth that the flaws didn’t even matter, and with every minute passing I was drawn in more and more (though I admit I skipped through most of the cheerleading couple scenes :p). I kept shedding buckets of tears in almost every single episode, and yet I didn’t mind it one bit. Maybe I’m just a masochist, haha.
I currently live far away from my mom (an ocean apart) so all of the scenes involving Jin Joo’s mom just make me burst into tears and wanting to ring up my mom. And even though I’m not married, I still felt Jin Joo and Ban Do’s relationship and their daily life struggles incredibly realistic (I do agree that their antics in the beginning of the ‘time travel’ was a bit too much though). Also, I’m a sucker for stories of the relationship-mending kind. There’s just so much good angst to milk, what’s with the history between the characters, hurt and love and anger all mixed up. Like you and many others, I also wished the writer was able to build their progress towards reconciliation more thoroughly and earlier on (I could totally do without all those crass humour scenes). Maybe a couple more episodes would have helped.
While I’m familiar with Jang Na Ra (and a few other actors in this drama actually), I knew next to nothing about Son Ho Jun and was pleasantly surprised by how much I enjoyed his performance (I actually also found him really charming and handsome, particularly with the shorter haircut; he has a nice smile too! ah, excuse my fangirling). Once he was able to re-discover his love for Jin Joo, his gaze–ah, too much for my heart at times. That scene where he bought painkillers and pads, I swooned so hard by how unfazed he was, then even more with the whole back massage thing too. Hoping to see him more often as the leading man from now on!
I actually never had SLS (second lead syndrome) in this drama. While I found Nam Gil cute, I’m just so over the whole rich-boy-with-family-issues archetype in dramas that I didn’t feel very much for him. And when placed next to Jin Joo, they just seem like the typical plucky girl and rich boy lead couple of the olden day dramas so I was like meh. His presence also felt rather forced at times. I mean, I know why such a character was needed in the storyline but I wish there was better character development. The resolution of his arc with Jin Joo was well done though, so I’ll give the writer kudos for that.
Anyway, it was one of the few dramas that I truly didn’t want to end (ahem, I’m looking at you, Splish Splash Love), and I think that makes it all the more memorable in my heart. To me, this drama felt like it’s the younger cousin twice removed from Jealousy Incarnate (which if you haven’t watched yet, totally recommend!) and Reply 1988, particularly in the rom com and family aspects. Incidentally, I’ve been craving the cracky addictive feel of Jealousy Incarnate so this came at just the right time.
Thank you for helping me discover this gem of a drama!
Hi there Haru!! Yay that you found me, and welcome to the blog!! 😀 How cool, that our tastes are so similar!
I’m with you on the ugly-crying. I found myself crying at this show, and more than a few times too. Every single time, it was Mom that made me cry, and not the couple themselves. The story around Mom was just so epically heart-hitting. <3 And YES, I found Sohn Ho Jun very appealing in this too! His gaze could be very mesmerizing too <3 He rarely gets leading man roles, if memory serves. I think it's mostly coz he's not the typical male lead "type" – he's not as tall, or as fair-skinned as the typical kdrama lead. But man, those soulful gazes he was giving Jang Na Ra were something else! I really liked him in Answer Me 1994, which is an enjoyable watch if you're in the mood for nostalgia 🙂 My favorite of the Answer Me series is the 1988 installment tho (Hi5!). <3
I often visit this blog for kdrama recommendation. Will check this one out. The revisit theme seems a bit similar to Operation Proposal.
That’s great that you’ll check this one out, Vhi! I found this so much more heartwarming than I’d expected. I say give it a bit of time to settle.. in the beginning the angst feels like a lot, and then when they go back to college, the treatment is a little too comedic, I felt. But in the end, it blossoms into something so heartwarming, that it’s totally worth the wait. 🙂 It’s not quite Operation Proposal in its treatment, in that there aren’t multiple trips to the past, only one big trip, but the do-over theme is similar 🙂
This show was such a refreshing show away from the usual fluff and my favourite scene was when the Jin Joo realised how much crap Ban Do went through with his work. I thought the way the couples reacted towards each other in the first few episodes were quite realistic in that oftentimes love in a marriage gets so twisted up it ends up in hatred, which results in divorce. But then again I’ve never been married so I can’t really say. However, definitely loved the ending and Ban Do stole my heart all the way. I especially loved the way they contrasted Ban Do’s love and Nam Gil’s. My interpretation was that Nam Gil’s love was more of a puppy love borne out of his lack of motherly love (since Jin Joo acted more like a mother to him) whereas Ban Do’s love one that’s is more mature, developed from 10+ years of marriage.
But then again that’s just my interpretation haha. Love your review as always!
Glad you enjoyed the show – and this review! 🙂 Yes, this was a refreshing deviation from Dramaland’s usual approach to romance 🙂 I didn’t mean that Jin Joo and Ban Do getting divorced was unrealistic; that part was pretty realistic to me. But the way their displeasure with each other was shown in the earlier episodes of their do-over visit to the past, was too childish, I felt. Also, in order for a reconciliation to feel plausible, I felt that Show could’ve shown us earlier in the story, the glimmers of care and love that was buried in each of them, for the other. I agree, Ban Do and Nam Gil were nicely contrasted, in the way that they loved. Nam Gil WAS such a puppy, and Ban Do’s love was much deeper, as we eventually saw. 🙂
Yeah I agree with you it did feel a little childish at the start but I just put it off as typical k-drama style and they did follow through with the upbeat/light-hearted feel that they were going for, at least in the happier scenes. And now that I think back, those scenes did feel really abrupt from the intense divorce scene from before.
And yeah I agree, it was hard relating to them at the start. But I feel like they were targeting those who have had similar experiences with divorce. Then again, I’m a sucker for intense dramatic scenes done right and the acting just blew me away. So I would’ve easily just shrugged off any other flaws LOL
Oh yes, the dramatic scenes were very well done indeed. Those sucked me in, definitely. 🙂 What I meant to say was, during the childish parts, where they “hated” each other, back in the past, I would have liked to have seen more hints of care and concern, earlier. Show gave that care and concern to us, but much later in the game, without the hints, and that’s why the turnaround felt a little less organic than it could’ve been. Without the hints of care/regret, it did feel sort of abrupt, as you said. So yeah, this could have been better done, BUT, this show still managed to totally get under my skin and make me cry, so that’s a HUGE plus! <3
This was one of the best dramas of 2017! I loved it so much. I really wish they added one more episode, but it was great the way it was. I loved all the jumping back and forth between time periods with flashbacks (flashforwards?). It was all good.
Oh yes, one more episode would’ve been great! The ending did feel a touch rushed, and I would’ve loved to have had time to savor the various moments with our characters. Still good, as you said! 🙂 Glad you loved this one too, V! 😀
But how could he choose anything over his own child? I mean, isn’t this akin to infanticide? Without his parents, that baby will never exist. Yet, it isn’t as if the baby will cease to exist for either of them. They will remember that baby until the day they die. A heartbreak that Ban Do CHOOSES for both of them.
And the fact that he decides this on his own, and that Jin Joo gets no say in it–that is extremely annoying.
Otherwise, there was a sweetness and fundamental caring between the two that I liked very much.
I guess you could call this noble idiocy – making a decision and thinking that it’s for the good of the other person, but not realizing that it’s hurting the other person more than helping. I suppose I was swayed by Sohn Ho Joon’s delivery. Ban Do’s grief and heartbreak in that moment felt real to me, and I appreciated his intentions – in spite of the noble idiocy. And thankfully said noble idiocy wasn’t successful 😉
I’m pretty much in agreement with everything you wrote, Fangirl, except for this: “Ban Do’s decision to break things off with Jin Joo, believing that he’s doing the better thing for her, is sad to watch. But it’s crystal clear that he’s doing the most selfless thing, with his eyes only on Jin Joo’s happiness, and that is moving indeed. ”
No. Just no. Ban-Do’s perplexing stupidity is not a selfless thing, and it certainly isn’t the better thing for Jin Joo. What mother would choose her parent over her child? What kind of happiness is that? What? Is she supposed to forget about her longed-for, much-loved baby boy? Will being with her mother compensate for that loss? How can erasing their child’s existence be considered anything but cruel and wicked?
Sorry, I think this plot device was a fundamental weakness of the show. I couldn’t get into the dreamy second lead (I think he was responding to Jin Joo’s motherliness, anyway, poor boy) because I knew that our couple had to get back together. I could excuse Ban Do’s reckless behavior at the beginning when he had to be reminded of his son’s existence as temporary giddiness (Look! I have abs! And I can get the girl!) But then to decide–all on his own, btw, without consulting the person MOST effected by HIS decision–that Jin Joo would be better off in this world than the one in which her son is living…that is wrong on so many levels.
You make a lot of sense, Blenny. As for the reason why I felt for Ban Do in that scene, in spite of it all, is because from his perspective, he was doing the most selfless thing he knew to do, in the moment. His logic was flawed, sure, but he believed that he was doing the best thing for Jin Joo, and that purity of intention, although flawed, as you pointed out, is what moved me.
happy new year! this kdrama showed so much of familial love all around that i would recommend it to anybody who’s looking for something different than the usual OTP romance. this might be my favorite jang nara performance, she’s my bias. her interaction w/ mom is gold! i cried buckets in the goodbye scene in particular.
hope you have a bountiful new year! looking forward to your reviews:)
I’m so glad you loved this one too, bugs_bunny!! And OMG yes, every interaction between Mom and Jin Joo were gold. <3 I usually don't ugly-cry at dramas, but that goodbye scene really got me too. It was so heartwrenching and yet so beautiful at the same time. :')
Happy 2018 dear bugs_bunny! Cheers to more great dramas for us all 😉
I’ve been a fan of your blog since I chanced upon it two years ago. I always look forward to reading your reviews to see if we share the same sentiment. Hahaha… You can write so articulately and this review is so spot-on. Everything I felt when watching this show, you’ve written it down (as if on my behalf hahaha). I’ve been watching K-drama since 5 years ago and this show hits close to my heart for many reasons. I’m a housewife with 3 kids and I’ve recently lost my mother to brain aneurysm and so whenever Jin Joo has scenes with her mother, I always cried buckets because it would make me miss my own mom so much. Sometimes I had to pause the show during those times because it was too hard to bear. Jin Joo’s struggles as a wife and mother hits close to home too as I could relate with everything she’s going through. This is such a heart-warming drama. I’m happy with the ending too. Kudos to the writers and the excellent cast of this show.
Hi there feli, thanks for the love and support! I’m so happy that you found me, and that you’ve been enjoying the reviews! 😀
I’m so sorry for your loss of your mom.. I can imagine how heartrending, and possibly how cathartic it was, to cry along with Jin Joo in this show. It sounds like this drama came along at just the right time for you. I hope this show helped to bring some healing to your heart. Big hugs. <3 <3
Thank you my dear. Means a lot! 🙂
Kim Mi Kyung moon dancing! How awesome was that?
This show perfectly exemplifies one of the main things I love about Kdramas–the emphasis of family and the relationship between parents and their children. And Kim Mi Kyung–although I can never remember her name–is one of my favorite actresses of any nationality. I freaking adore her.
That said, the writing really wasn’t very good, was it? I think the actors really carried this show.
Oh yes! Kim Mi Kyung doing the moonwalk was GOLD. There’s probably nothing she can’t do! 😂😍 I am so with you on the Kim Mi Kyung love – she is so talented, and just so GOOD. <3 And yes, this show really did do well, with the emphasis on family and relationships. But yes, I do agree the writing could have been better, especially around the other aspects of the show. Happily, the writers got the family stuff right, coz that was truly the heart of the show. <3
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I really enjoyed this one even if the scenes with Mom made me cry. The second male lead was definitely swoon and so different than his character in The Liar and his Lover.
The lead actors were great, especially Jang Na Ra. She plays those deep but quiet feelings so well.
One thing that made me laugh was Ban Do’s appreciation and joy in his youth and energy. Like when his first love was pressed against him on the bus and he is admiring his own arm.
I do wish that there had been a bit more on the couple’s realization that they did still love each other and want to work on their marriage. Just more of a transition to that from the set up with the first loves.
Also, I want to know how Dok Hae may of changed. I liked the budding friendship between he and Seol.
I watched the scene with Ban Do finding out how Park went after Jin Joo twice. It was a bit heartbreaking and swoon, lol. Just that he took that abuse for her , to protect that life even though she would never have wanted that for him.
Thanks for enjoying the review, bev! 😀 And yay that you loved this one too. I am so with you; Mom’s scenes made me cry too – by the final episode she had me ugly-crying at my screen, she was just so amazing, and everything was just so poignant and bittersweet. 😭💔 Yes, Jang Ki Yong is SO different in this, compared to his character in The Liar and His Lover! I had to double-check, just to make sure it was the same actor in both shows!
I absolutely agree with you that it would’ve been better if we could’ve seen more on the couple’s path to reconciliation. I feel like Show spent too much time on the bickering in the earlier episodes, because it’s supposed to be funny, and then used up too much time and didn’t have enough screen time left to really unpack properly, why and how this couple found their hearts back with each other. As a result, it all did feel a little jerky and sudden, from my perspective.
You’re right, Show seemed to have forgotten all about Dok Jae in the final scenes, with everyone back in the present. I wonder if that was also a case of not having enough screen time left? 🤔
I enjoyed this drama. I do have to disagree with you re Dok Jae vomiting over the rail…it made me belly laugh like I was on something. I ended up showing it to someone and laughed again until I hurt. These things happen…
Lol. I know that I don’t tend to jive with broad comedy in general, so I’m not surprised that the scene didn’t work for me. But, I’m glad you had so much fun with Dok Jae’s drunk scene! 😆
I also agree with everything you said about this show. Spot on!!! I also wasn’t even going to watch it because I was so sick of another time travel drama. But I’m so glad I checked it out. Such a gem of a show and really took me by surprise.
Yay that you ended up checking this one out, D! 🙂 I almost gave this a pass as well, coz it sounded like a time travel show – and I feel like I need a break from time-travel dramas. It feels like they’re kind of everywhere these days! 😝 So, YAY that this one wasn’t time travel, and double YAY, that this one turned out to be such a heartwarming, heart-tugging sort of show. <3
SOO agree with you, when people askme for drama recommendations, I look back on this year’s dramas, and maybe cz my memory’s bad, this is the only one that stuck with me and actually made me wanna watch it until the end. This couple was not as hyped but I loved that individually they were stars for me in the show as much as together. But definately the second lead stole my heart badly especially his tall figure in that uniform. OOF. Hope to see more of this actor! great review!
Thanks for enjoying the review, sunrise! 🙂 And yes, I thought this one was very underrated. Despite its lack of polish, it had so much heart, and by the last episode, I was ugly-crying at Mom and all of her awesomeness. <3 These people felt real in spite of the broad comedic touch that Show sometimes had, and I was sorry to get to the end of this one. And yes, Jang Ki Yong looked so good in that uniform! 😍 I'd love to see more of him too 🙂